When things feel lost in translation, when the message doesn’t feel received.
I remember the first day of kindergarten they were already talking about college, my mom and dad sat there as they discussed the future of their 5 year old daughter. College!? “She’s in Kindergarten!”. At the age of 5 the talk of college was already in motion. Call it traditional or whatever you want but the mindset people have is that college is the only way, the only way to success and the only way to living a full filled life. Have you ever met a truly happy fulfilled wealthy person? It rarely exists. It’s 2017 and we are still dealing will the same problems we were 20 years ago. People still being so closed minded, and it can be a real challenge to not get overly frustrated and angry with those individuals.
I’ve always known I wasn’t the traditional kid from the traditional family. I never thought of college as my plan. I don’t have a set plan. I just have ideas and passions and things I want to go after. This cookie cutter mold we have learned to accept is a joke. Nobody should feel less than for not going to college, no one should feel less than for wanting to travel or create instead of going to a 4 year college a few states away from home.
Im lucky enough to have a family who understands me and this idea. The fact that some young adults who have parents who will literally cut them off if they stray away from this idea of the perfect plan is heartbreaking, ridiculous, and so far from what they should be doing as supportive parents and families.
It’s hard to let go, of things, old memories, people, and places, they mean something to us. They have value and meaning. We have a sense of ownership to these people and belongings, but for reasons sometimes unfair we have to move on. Because its “for the best” or “the only option”. And sometimes we don’t understand it all until it’s over and done with. You then see both sides, or the things that were wrong and right with the situation.
I’ve left behind some things and some people these past few years and at first there was this sense of relief, but then you start to question yourself, overthink it, think you need something to fill the whole you were left with. Meeting new people and doing new things and then leaving them behind seems like the last thing on your mind.
There is such a large amount of pressure put on the youth, pressure to follow what their parents did, take on the family business, go to the same college, meet certain expectations. This can cause many people especially younger ones to lash out at their families or become reckless with themselves and their decisions. They become so mentally exhausted from trying to please their parents high expectations and they can’t take it anymore. They get into dangerous situations and feel a sense of freedom when they rebel. These parents or teachers think they are doing a productive thing when they use strict and high expectations but they could actually be having the complete opposite affect. I’ve always been really hard on myself, setting myself really high tasks and beating myself up when I didn’t reach them. This cycle caused me to be very self destructive and I produced a really unhealthy environment for myslef. I’ve bettered myself overtime and try to let things come naturally instead of telling myself it all needs to happen now in a “perfect” form.
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